Wednesday, 2 November 2011
Aso Ebi Palaver
When i was growing, i was made to believe that the tradition of people wearing uniform clothes (aso ebi) was for the yourbas. Then, in my place, the only time a family wore the same clothes was when someone died. The uniform showed that the wearers were members of the deceased's family. Gradually, families started wearing uniform clothes for weddings (both traditionals and white) as well. Then extended families joined in, then close friends, then not-so-close friends. Then other parties joined in, even birthday parties.
These days anyone can wear aso ebi to a party. it doesnt matter who it is. I knew a girl in school who made it a point of duty to buy, sew and wear any aso ebi and even attend the event no matter where it was. cos she thought being on the aso ebi train was the fastest way to get noticed by a guy (potential boyfriend). Cant say her marketing paid off cos she was still very very single (boyfriend and husband wise) when we graduated.
Thing is, i dont even like wearing same kind of clothes with people. I have never liked it. As a child, when my mum makes same clothes for my cousins and i and made us wear it on the same day,once we get to wherever we were going, i will get missing from the pack. This was in a bid not be seen wearing 'uniform' with them. I will try to be as far away from them as possible to try to hide the act that we were wearing the same cloth.
Learnt that these days,its a money making avenue for the bride. She buys the clothes, then sells them at a little above cost price and people buying do so as a form of contribution towards the wedding. Well, sounds good sha. Cant remember if i have ever worn aso ebi for any event before. And i didnt even bother to saddle anyone with the obligation of buying mine so i didnt have asoebi for my wedding. My contribution for people's weddings usually comes in form of my attendance and my nicely wrapped gift (or envelope as the case may be)
Now, some people are just taking it too far. How can u be wedding and expect your friends to buy aso ebi that cost 50 thousand naira! Yes, 50K. Isnt that a little too extreme. I just got that brief and i am pretending not to have heard that. 50thousand???? So wait, na me wan do the wedding for u? Abi u wan collect the money for the food wey i go chop that day from my hand? For this austerity time? I will sit down in my house, thank u very much.
How has your week being going. Its mid week already and there are 2 lovely days of public holiday just right ahead. Talk about silver lining on a dark cloud. Cant wait