Chei! Which way Nigeria, which way to go?

I am sure that those born in the 80s remember that song "which way Nigeria, which way to go? I love my fatherland, i want to know...................." by Christy Essein (or so)

It is time again to ask that same question as was asked in that song "WHICH WAY NIGERIA????"

Recent headlines read thus:
"11 killed, several injured in Jos catholic church bomb blast" - Terrorism
"Gun men kill 3 in Kano state" - Terrorism
"Corpers die in road crash" - Poor planning and infrastructures
"Terrorist escapes arrest" - Negligence in high places
"Woman kidnapped....." - Terrorism
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The list is just endless. When people die senselessly this way, all we hear is "The president sends condolence messages to the families of the deceased blah blah blah". Condolence messages???? What the hell does that mean?
I am so sad. So sad for the thousands of people who have died (who probably shouldnt have) due to the circumstances that could have been avoided. Due to the cluelessness of the people in power. Its so sad.
Are they (government) telling me that there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that can be done about this Boko Haram thing? Are they telling me that the roads have been cursed by our fore-fathers and so can never be repaired? Are they telling me that it will kill them to provide us with power and those other basics?

To people in government - Noone is saying 'do not steal'. All we are saying is 'steal well but do what you are supposed to do'. Is that too much to ask??? If you steal us blind but provide us with power, good roads, healthcare we will sing your praise till thy kingdom come. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?

I am just so sad, honestly. Why do they have special advisers if noone is advising anyone? Have they TOTALLY sold their consciences to the devil? Dont they feel anymore?
God has done what he should do for us as a people. He has blessed us bountifully - both with natural and with human resources. He gave us free will to use them well. We are mis-using them and calling on Him.

Hmmm, anyway, when all seems to be lost, its just natural to look upwards.

Cant we, as a people, do ANYTHING?

I am tired of sayin "RIP" to people who have died due to these negligences/avoidable circumstances. Now i will say to them "Before you rest in peace, please haunt ALL the people that did not do what they were meant to do which resulted in your death. Haunt them till they run mad!"

Which way Nigeria????

Possesive and over-possesive partners.

Human beings just love to be loved. We, naturally, crave love and attention especially from people we love too. But sometimes, for some people, this love becomes extremely much!

I had this girl in the university. She just got out of a very abusive relationship before i met her. We used to exchange stories about boys and things. One day, she actually opened up to me, to tell me about her past relationship. Her boyfriend was over possessive. I thought that would show how much he loved her (hadnt really given the real meaning of that word a thought till then). She looked at me like an intelligent show-off student will look at a another student who just failed the recitation of 'Nigerian states and capitals' - with pity at my stupidity.
She started the story
Her boyfriend 'loved' her so much that he vowed NEVER to see her with another man. He strikes her anytime he sees her as much as talking to any male - he cries as he beats her. Asking her why she wants to break his heart! He feels bad at the closeness between her and her siblings - says she should love him more than her siblings as he seeks to make her his wife. The height - Anytime she goes out, to school or something,

*anyone under 18yrs should just stop reading here* hehehehe





he demands that she removes her underwear for him to check for the existence, or otherwise, of semen!!!

He has beat her on so many occasions cos he thought he saw something that looked like semen in her underwear. To say i was shocked beyond belief is just to put it mildly - Flabbergasted, will somehow explain how i felt at hearing this.
I also hear of girls that go through their boyfriend's phones and slam the fone on the wall anytime they see anything that remotely links the bf to another girl. They monitor the guy's movements and sometimes trail him to make sure he is going where he says he is going. They make sure they have all his friends' fone numbers so they can call and find out if he is truely with them when he says he is.

Ol boy! People, sha, sabi worry themselves ooo.

Over possessiveness. Not healthy, Not safe. So if there is anyone out there who is doing something like this - STOP IT! It does not show you love the other person. It simply shows you have a very very low self esteem.

And if you are in a relationship with someone who is possessive - Run, Flee, Take Off - before that person chokes you (literally and figuratively) to death.

Ciao!

Lets talk surgery!

Cosmetic surgery, i mean.
We see and hear about people who have gone under the knife for breast implants, hip enlargement, waist reduction, tummy tuck, face lift, nose jobs etc (ol boy, the things dem plenty ooo)
Now, there are so many people in this parts, who immediately criticize such people whenever they hear such things. I remember in 2005 when the news of the death of the then 1st lady filtered in. People were quite sad at first for her death until it was known that she died as a result of complications arising from a cosmetic surgery gone wrong. 

Come and see the spitting of venom.

A lot of people thought she deserved it "since she didnt want to grow old". That she would have been alive "if she had kept herself the way God made her". Made me wonder.
Now i ask "what exactly is wrong with having a cosmetic surgery"?
I mean what's the difference between having a sugery to make ur waist smaller and wearing a magic suit to do the same thing? Aside from the fact that the former is more expensive and kind of more permanent?
Is it the danger involved in these surgeries that make people castigate the lovers of this trade?
Ladies fix eyelashes, trim eyebrows, wear body magic that leaves no room for breathing yet once we hear someone had her face lifted, we sound the war drums and take the fight to the person's backyard.
I asked my aunty, that period Stella Obasanjo died, a question. I said to her "aunty, if i offer to pay for you to have your tummy fat removed surgically (she was always complianing of her big tummy and her laziness at exercising) will you do it?" She couldnt give me a straight reply.

So does it mean its lack of money that makes us view cosmetic surgery as a sin or is it just bad?



I dont have any intentions whatsoever of having any, by the way.

Nigeria's dumbest criminal!

I read this stroy and didnt know whether to cry or laugh.
How can someone be so evil and so stupid at the same time???
Please read:

A 30-years-old housewife, Rukayat Alalade, has been arrested by men of the Nigeria Police Force, Oyo State Command, for  macheting her 11 years old stepson to death.
It was gathered that the suspect, whose husband Lukman Alalade, married after he separated from his first wife, had always haboured ill-feelings for her two stepchildren.
According to sources, the dastardly act was committed on Valentine’s Day after the boy, identified as Qudus, returned from an errand on which his stepmother sent him. Angry that the boy was late in coming from where she sent him to buy kerosene, the suspect reportedly descended on him with a machete. She reportedly cut him on the head and hand until he gave up the ghost.
After accomplishing her mission, Mrs. Alalade dragged the remains of the little boy to the backyard of the family’s building and hid the cutlass under the bed.
Her wicked deed was, however, blown open when the husband came back and could not see his son. Though she initially denied knowledge of the deceased’s whereabouts, a trail of his blood was followed to where his body was eventually discovered at the backyard. It was then that bloodstains were noticed on the woman’s cloth, while the cutlass was found under the bed in the couple’s room.
The suspect has been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID) for further investigations and prosecution.

I dont know which upsets me more - the fact that she was so demonic to another human being (her stepson) or the fact that she was a dumb ass demon.
I mean "drag the body to the backyard and hide the cutlass under the bed"? She should be charged with murder in the 1st degree as well as stupidity in the 1st degree! The 2 charges should get her spending the rest of her life in jail! Oshi!

Are you an attention loving person?

I mean, do you love being the center of gravity? Do you love being the focal point, the topic of discussion?
In relationships, do you love your other to just keep talking about you  and to you everytime?
A girl i know gets really pissed with her boyfriend if he doesnt call her at least 4 times a day. says it shows she wasnt on his mind, that he wasnt thinking of her. (She seemed to forget that calling is a 2 way thing).
Anyway, while some people will do everything to get out of the spotlight or be stifled with attention, i know some people just love being attended to - in whatever way conceivable.

Are you one of the former or the latter?

I think i am the latter *embarrased look*

Why do women cheat?

I came across a really interesting article in a magazine. I thought to share it with you guys here and see if you agree with the writer. I will try to summarize it as much as possible.

"Although woman have not surpassed men in the cheating scale, more married women,now than ever before, are sleeping with other men aside their husbands. Here are the top 10 reasons women cheat....

1. Not enough sex: Women want to feel wanted. If you dont make her feel that way, she will seek it elsewhere.
2. Being 'the bad girl': Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats some women have an inner kitten waiting to be unleashed.
3. Self esteem: A woman with low self esteem is more likely to cheat. As she sees advances towards her as a self esteem booster which makes her feel sexier and more beautiful
4. Revenge/Pay back for past wrongs: The husband probably didnt cheat but has hurt her in one way or the other. She seeks revenge by sleeping with someone else
5. Lack of intimacy: Its not just having sex. Its those other things that make women feel connected in a realationship-touching,kissing,cuddling and communicating. When this is lacking, she will probably look out.
6. Feeling neglected/ignored/underappreciated: Women do a lot of things in the home-housekepper, errand runner, babysitter etc. When she begins to feel more like a maid than a wife, thats when she could stray.
7. Husband's emotional withdrawal: Women are emotional beings. They need even more emotional support than they need physical support. Once the man retrezts from the relationship emotionally, the woman is likely to cheat as she will see it as 'moving on' rather than cheating.
8. Bedroom boredom: Monotonous sex in the bedroom-same setting, same position, same person (might just = BOREDOM) Cheating could give her an adventure and set the adrenalin pumping
9. Exit strategy: Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesnt have to deal with a broken relationship (Didnt quite get what the writer was trying to say here though)
10. Revenge for your cheating: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. She might just want to give you a dose of your own medicine if you have cheated on her before.

In my oppinion, the writer duplicated the major reason over and over - The major reason is 'Lack of Effective Communication'. Most of the 10 points can be summed by that one major reason.

What do you think?

Long time no see you guys. No be small thing. Hope say una sha dey well.

Ciao!



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Who do you trust?

 
Monday was a public holiday here in naija, and while i was lounging and lazying about at home, my colleague and dear friend was having her heart broken by a family member she trusted and had accomodated for over 5 months.

What happened? My friend (hereafter referred to as 'she') met someone on facebook who claimed he was family. She made consultations and truely the guy was her 2nd cousin. But since she didnt travel home a lot, she didnt really know him or his siblings. The boy said he was in the States and would be coming to Lagos soon. He asked her if she could accomodate him. She obliged and the guy came to her house. A visit she thought would last for a day or 2 turned to weeks into months. She didnt complain cos she had space in her house. As the guy stayed, she began trusting him and letting down her guard. 2 weeks ago, she was a bit down and needed to give someone some money. Here was where she made the mistake - she gave the guy her atm card to go help her withdraw money to give the person. He did that and all went well. Monday morning, she woke up to find the guy's stuffs gone and some few minutes later, debit alerts from her accounts started flying into her fone! Before she could say 'jack robinson' 120k don develope wings fly comot from her account!!!

Classic case of "biting the finger that fed you"

A text also came in from the guy's number saying "I am not a thief, i know what i am doing. I am out for revenge. My father told me all your father did to him, how he killed him and i am here to wreck vengence so my father's soul can rest in peace". Can u imagine?

My friend's father died in 1992 and this guy's father died in 2006. How could a man dat died 14years earlier have possibly done??? Ok, lets assume the 2 fathers actually had something going on, who is this guy to come and exert vengence after being taken good care of for so long? Was that text just an excuse for his robbing behaviour?

So many questions, no answers. The guy has switched off his fone (a fone my friend got for him), has de-activated his facebook account and generally gone incommunicado.
Its just so sad lenghts some people can go to repay kindness. Makes one wonder if helping people is worth the stress.

My philosophy, though, is this - keep doing good. It hurts when you are repayed with evil but God sitting on the throne will make you smile at the end.

How are you guys doing?
Ciao!