Thursday, 23 February 2012

Why do women cheat?

I came across a really interesting article in a magazine. I thought to share it with you guys here and see if you agree with the writer. I will try to summarize it as much as possible.

"Although woman have not surpassed men in the cheating scale, more married women,now than ever before, are sleeping with other men aside their husbands. Here are the top 10 reasons women cheat....

  1. Not enough sex: Women want to feel wanted. If you dont make her feel that way, she will seek it elsewhere.
  2. Being 'the bad girl': Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats some women have an inner kitten waiting to be unleashed.
  3. Self esteem: A woman with low self esteem is more likely to cheat. As she sees advances towards her as a self esteem booster which makes her feel sexier and more beautiful
  4. Revenge/Pay back for past wrongs: The husband probably didnt cheat but has hurt her in one way or the other. She seeks revenge by sleeping with someone else
  5. Lack of intimacy: Its not just having sex. Its those other things that make women feel connected in a realationship-touching,kissing,cuddling and communicating. When this is lacking, she will probably look out.
  6. Feeling neglected/ignored/underappreciated: Women do a lot of things in the home-housekepper, errand runner, babysitter etc. When she begins to feel more like a maid than a wife, thats when she could stray.
  7. Husband's emotional withdrawal: Women are emotional beings. They need even more emotional support than they need physical support. Once the man retrezts from the relationship emotionally, the woman is likely to cheat as she will see it as 'moving on' rather than cheating.
  8. Bedroom boredom: Monotonous sex in the bedroom-same setting, same position, same person (might just = BOREDOM) Cheating could give her an adventure and set the adrenalin pumping
  9. Exit strategy: Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesnt have to deal with a broken relationship (Didnt quite get what the writer was trying to say here though)
  10. Revenge for your cheating: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. She might just want to give you a dose of your own medicine if you have cheated on her before.
In my oppinion, the writer duplicated the major reason over and over - The major reason is 'Lack of Effective Communication'. Most of the 10 points can be summed by that one major reason.

What do you think?

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  1. I'm not a woman so I'm not sure if I'm in a position to comment. Whilst the writer has put forward some valid reasons as to why a woman may cheat, I believe the reasons sometimes are more complex and not as simplistic to sum up in ten different ways.

    Human beings by nature have the tendency to cheat as long as they know they can get away with it. Some people may cheat because they enjoy the thrill of it. Others may cheat because of their vulnerability. I think I agree with with you that effective communication would definitely help minimise the tendency to cheat.

  2. I agree with Naija4life. While the ten points are some of the reasons, I'm sure there are other excuses that might come up.

  3. all the reasons kinda look the same to me.i wrote a simpler blog but its basically about both the female and male you said cheating all balls down to lack of communication truly.


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