Why do we feel bad when told 'You are adding weight'?

Yes. Why?
Me, you, most people. Women especially.We just dont like it when people say we are getting bigger. Could it be cos we have been made to believe in our subconscious that big isnt nice? that skinny is it? Could it be cos we wish we wouldnt get fat?
I met with some friend over the weekend, we hadnt seen each other in over 5 years. one of us used to be real skinny back in the day. Lo and behold, the day we met, she was fatly fat! It was all i could do not to shout out in shock. As God will have it, i didnt. Someone else did and did she get tongue lashed for it? She went - 'what? so-and-so, what happened to you (like the fat girl had a terminal infection or something) How come you are now this big??? Our former-skinny-but-now-fat friend just gave it back to her instantly! 'what is your business? Do u feed me?What nonsense? You, why are u so skinny? What happened to you? It is how i want to be and it dosent concern anybody'. She went on and on and on. We had to intervene in order not to spoil the reunion. Maybe it was the way the 1st girl presented the 'fat' issue. But i have reaslized that women genrally, dont like been told they are adding weight

I dont think i like it either, though i tell myself before anyone tells me so it doesnt hurt as much.


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You can never be JUST FRIENDS with someone you’re in love with.

Hi guys, how was ur weekend? Hope u'all had a good one.

You can never be JUST FRIENDS with someone you’re in love with
That was the facebook status of one of my friends recently. My 1st reaction was 'why'? but on second, more thorough thought, i saw her point.
Ok 2 scenerios
1) You are in love with this person who dosent know you are in love with him/her. who u are friends with but for u, it has gotten beyond the 'simply friends' border but because of who u are, u just cannot find the right way to communicate your feeling to him/her. You guys continue the friendship and u see him/her with other people who get close to him/her romantically. you feel bad. how can you keep hanging around, hurting urself more??? one of 2 things - either you come out and say 'Guy/babe, i am in love with u' or you take a walk. either way, you guys arent just friends
2) You are dating this person and for one reason or the other, you guys decide to stop dating (either amicably or after a big fight). One person is still in love with the other. The other says 'let us still be friends'. Okay. You have given this person your time, your body (in most cases) and perhaps, ur money AND you are still in love.But after everthing, he/she wants to just go back to being ur friend. It actually can work (for some people) but that has to be that the 2 people are in different places so they dont get to meet often (if at all). chances are, if and when they do meet, they kick off the fight where they left it off or they forget the fight and remember all the good times had instead and most probably, end up in the sack 'for old times sake'! Either way, u guys arent just friends.

So like i said earlier, after second, more thorough thought, i now see the sense in my friend's FB status.

Happy new week to you all, my friends

Wish u the very best of the week

Ciao!




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What excatly is all the rivalry and competition for?

In the office,one staff wants to outshine others and even drag them down in the process. People go out of their way to be noticed as the 'star' not minding whose ox is gored. Some even plot ways to f**k the other up completely.
As kids, one sibling rats his/her sister/brother out on every little incident just so he/she can be known as the 'good child' at home. As grown ups, the sibling rivalry dosent end. It continues. Competition about who wears the nicest clothes, who dates the cutest guy, who has the more loaded boyfriend. even up till who gets married first.
Sometimes, competition is without bad blood, just something people do (for fun even!). Could be healthy when properly done. But most times, it is with so much ulterior motives and bad intentions especially the kind found in offices. Areas one is supposed to help the other to get the job done is ignored just so that one can make a fool of him/her self and be ridiculed.
Rivalry. You see it everywhere

This post was inspired by a thread i saw in this website i like going to www.wivesroundtable.net . A lady was asking what to do about her two kids (9 & 7) who were alsways competing against each other. I read through other people's comments and could relate 100% with them!

That didnt just happen!!!!

 

OMG!  'Gbese'!!!

Okay. 

Out with the boss, walking behind him when its noticed - an ant crawling on his buttocks. Like a good person  (not wanting the boss to get stung in the ass, even though he may deserve it) you try hitting off the insect gently trying not to attract boss's attention. 

Just about to, boss suddenly stops so the distance of his ass to ur hand is mis-judged and 'kpai!' u end up slapping boss hard on his ass!!! He turns and gives u that 'you are dead!' look. You freeze, looking as stupid as is humanly possible

Chei, wetin i wan do???

 

Everything happens for a reason. Does it really?

We often hear 'thats the way its meant to be', 'it happened for a reason', 'it was not meant to be' etc.
I, as a person, firmly believe that NOTHING happens to me which isnt for my good. I just believe that. even when something not good happens to me (i have had my fair share) i believe they all are the different steps leading up to my ultimate gain. I am not talking about only heavenly gain now, i mean even gain on earth.

I wouldnt lie though, sometimes i seriously begin to think 'what if i had done this differently, would things have turned out better for me?', 'what if i made this decision instead of that, would i have been better off?' I sometimes wish that i could, for a minute, just see tommorrow so at least i can make informed decisions. But that is just wishful thinking. We are left to make decisions with lessons of the past and other people's experiences which most times dont give us the desired result (or so we think)

We just live, not knowing what would have happened if we had left the house 5 minutes later (or ealier), if we had taken third mainland bridge instead of eko bridge, if we had if we had stopped for fuel in this filling station instead of that one, if we had said this instead of that. We cant know what would have happened, all we know is what is happening which sometimes isnt what we would have loved to happen.

What am i even saying sef? I just feel very 'not knowing' right now. One of those things.

Have a lovely week people.

Ciao

Me? Versatile blogger? Yayyyy!!!

Priscy you are the bomb!!!

I feel like i just won the grammy's (yeah, that high). A dear blog friend (priscy) has deemed me fit to be called a versatile blogger. I am somewhat new in the blogville, that should give u a little idea as to why i am so overjoyed.

Now, one of the requirements for recieving this award is to tell 7 things about urself, so here goes:

1) I love polite and courteous people and try so hard to be too.
2) I am very outspoken. People love me for it, some others dont (too bad)
3) I have a dimple on just one cheek!  (yeah, weird)
4) I honestly wouldnt mind meeting Tuface one on one (love the guy's music to bits)
5) I used to wish (and still sometimes do) that i learned teakwando or karate as a child so i can defend some defenceless people cos i HATE injustice with a passion!
6) I recently found out this site, wivesroundtable ,  and have been going there to vent! (pheww, and it has really been refreshing as well as entertaining)
7) I am in love with 2 guys and dont know what to do!!!!!

That was not quite easy (and i thought i knew myself, lol)

Anyway, thats about it and i thank all you bloggers for making blogging interesting,entertaining and educating.

Ciao!

Good luck to a good friend

A very good friend and a colleague just left us for future pursuits. He left to further his education in Europe. Since he left, i have been feeling very low.
The way one person can affect another.
He is a very very nice guy, always ready to help out with work loads in the office (that aspect i will miss so very much), very jovial and fun loving. Intelligent to go with it.
He was like a brother. Now he is gone, for good anyway but that dosent make me feel any better.
Funny enough, work today has been kind of quiet, evryone minding his/her work and not talking too much. I wonder if it has anything to do with the one who is no longer here.
Anyway, he has arrived his school in europe and he says 'naija is in the last millenium'(his words excatly). he says he couldnt believe his eyes when he stepped off the plane in germany. That MM2 is a farm yard compared to what he saw there. But as correct naija boy, he has to maintain as if he sees stuff like that everyday. he said he almost stood and gaped when he saw 2 men kissing on the road!!!! I could just imagine what would have happened if that sight was beheld here in our beloved country. just imagine walking on a street in orile and 2 guys by the side of the road are kissing. before u say 'jack', multitude for don gather for their head. na God go save them dat day if people no stone dem.
I guess we have a long way to go civilization-wise (but i think being uncivilized in this particular dept. is a good thing) As for our infrastructures matching up with that of developed countries, i guess another millinium will pass us by (not trying to sound pessimistic but given the way things are going)
I miss my friend and i wish him well in his studies and furture endeavours